This morning the kids and I got into a discussion about life and death. It can be hard to know what to share with your kids on this subject, and I’m no expert. But, since the truth is that we are all going to die, I simply told them the truth. Death is an inevitable part of life. I know. You are thinking this is supposed to be a blog about love, not death. So where am I going with this? I promise you will understand the connection as you read on.
As the discussion continued, I answered their questions as calmly and honestly as I could. Then Aviana turned to me and said,
Mama, will you help me with something before you die?
Of course, I replied,
anything. She looked at me with her big eyes and said,
Will you help me fall in love?
Cue the heart melting! And after replying yes, I quickly added,
Do you know who the most important person for you to fall in love with is? She looked curiously at me and asked,
who? I pointed my finger at her heart and said,
YOU! You have to fall in love with yourself in order to share your love with others.
So, there it is. My moment. And a moment that has me thinking deeply. We are often taught at a young age that our happiness involves meeting the right person, falling in love, having the right job, or living in the right place. But one of the lessons I’m constantly reminded of is that in isolation, none of that actually makes us feel fulfilled. What really matters is the love you have for yourself. And some of you might think this concept really selfish. But you know it is true. If you love who you are and where you are in your life, you want to give, you want to share, you want to spread the love you feel inside. If we don’t love ourselves, we try to create love with things and purchases and people. Nothing is ever good enough. Nothing fills the void. So we continue in the cycle of buying, disappointment, despair, insecurities, etc.
This is why Luca's message of LOVE hit me so hard. Love is not just something someone else gives you. Love is a reflection of how we see ourselves and how we treat ourselves. Too much of my life has been spent thinking about my looks, or how others perceive me. Am I liked? Did I get enough likes? Am I enough? But when Luca wrote LOVE in reverse, not for the outside world to read, but instead for the plants to feel, it changed my universe. It doesn’t matter what car you drive or the clothes you wear. All that matters is that little voice inside that tells you everyday:
I AM ENOUGH, I AM LOVE.
As always, thank you to my kids for being my LOVE guru’s, and to my amazing husband, Rob, my rock, my partner in crime. I couldn’t imagine life without you. And Happy Valentines Day to my true valentine, myself!#EVOL #spreadlove #willyoubeyourvalentine